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Being Alone, Fall, and Love: vajeentambourine Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid. Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor... It took me a long time to realize that it's okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth and that's a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven't processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn't make their behavior acceptable, and it's okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don't have to forgive every mistake. I want you to know that it's okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I've ever gone through. it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart's natural state But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health I know what it's like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone. Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
Being Alone, Fall, and Love: vajeentambourine
 Your mixed feelings about your
 parents are valid.
 Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes
 of emotional labor... It took me a long time to realize that it's okay to have mixed
 feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them
 Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth
 and that's a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely
 close to them
 Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing
 you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents
 manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental
 illness
 Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of
 emotional manipulation because they haven't processed their own traumas and
 are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn't make their behavior
 acceptable, and it's okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You
 don't have to forgive every mistake.
 I want you to know that it's okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart
 from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making
 the right decision
 Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one
 of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I've ever gone through. it hurts to
 try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It
 feels disingenuous to your heart's natural state
 But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not
 abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental,
 and spiritual health
 I know what it's like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and
 anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional
 labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.
 Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
Advice, Animals, and Anime: tumbl FANDOMETRICS Year In Review 2017 thefandometrics: We did it. We made it through! 12 months. 52 weeks. 365 days. 8,760 hours. 2017 is almost over. Let’s celebrate the stuff that made you happy. Here’s a toast to your favorite things on Tumblr. This is Tumblr’s Year in Review: 2017We looked over thousands of lines of data, scouring each and every popular tag in each and every popular category. We sorted this data with our very own Fandometrics rating technique, the pleasingly scientific system that measures searches, original posts, reblogs, and likes to rank your enthusiasm and love. For the first year ever, we have a community guest post. Meme Documentation (@memedocumentation) got deep into the nostalgia surrounding 2017’s most popular memes.Have questions about how this works? Wonder why Guy Fieri is not on any of these lists? Ask away! We’re going to answer your questions live on our Instagram on Wednesday, December 6 and again Wednesday, December 13. Now here’s what you’ve been waiting for. Tumblr’s favorite things in 2017:ShipsRemember: If your OTP didn’t make this list, it’s okay. It just means you are directly responsible and should’ve made more posts about them.Animated TVThe only list where a self-loathing horse and an extremely rich duck can be found in competition with each other.Live-Action TVIn the golden age of television, every single one of these is a winner. Some are just winnier than others.MoviesMoonlight beat La La Land in this list, too, but neither were No. 1.ActressesYou like them! You really like them!ActorsOnce again we find ourselves with a disproportionate amount of men named Chris. No one is complaining. Especially the men named Chris.Models20 women who have perfected everything from their smizes to their struts.Television PersonalitiesThe alternative name was “people who get paid a lot for being themselves on TV,” but that wasn’t very catchy.AthletesFor a community based on competition, the sports community on Tumblr is incredibly supportive and kind.Wrestling SuperstarsHit up this link or we’ll break out our meanest piledriver.Web SeriesWe put all of your favorite stuff from the internet onto one list on the internet.Web CelebritiesThe definitive list of your favorite YouTubers, Twitchers, and podcasters.  Solo ArtistsWe’re warning you now: Taylor Swift was knocked down a peg. There’s a new No. 1 in these here parts.BandsFive of these bands have numbers in their names, ranging from one to 1975.K-PopGet your light sticks ready!K-Pop Band MembersDid your ultimate bias make No. 1?MusicalsWhile we’re talking, let us offer you some free advice: Block less. Reblog more. Let your followers know what musical you’re against or what you’re for.Video Games⬆️⬆️⬇️⬇️⬅️➡️⬅️➡️🅱️🅰️BooksYou asked, we delivered. Feast your eyes on these words, you incredible bookworms.AuthorsFun (?) fact: This is the only list in the batch that features a man who died over 400 years ago.Anime MangaYou’re gonna triple axel when you see what’s No. 1.Tumblr CommunitiesThey aren’t any more or less important than the communities that didn’t make the cut. They’re just the ones that tagged their posts the most.Food DrinkThis list is zero carbs, and yet it’s full of carbs.AnimalsOld MacDonald had a blog, T-U-M-B-L-R.Dog BreedsSome puppers, a few pupperinos, a couple of fluffers, and, of course, a h*ckin’ boofer. boop this list, frenMemesTired: Tagging your friend in a meme.Wired: Tagging your friend in the replies to the Memes post.
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 Year In Review
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We did it. We made it through! 12 months. 52 weeks. 365 days. 8,760 hours. 2017 is almost over. Let’s celebrate the stuff that made you happy. Here’s a toast to your favorite things on Tumblr. This is Tumblr’s Year in Review: 2017We looked over thousands of lines of data, scouring each and every popular tag in each and every popular category. We sorted this data with our very own Fandometrics rating technique, the pleasingly scientific system that measures searches, original posts, reblogs, and likes to rank your enthusiasm and love. For the first year ever, we have a community guest post. Meme Documentation (@memedocumentation) got deep into the nostalgia surrounding 2017’s most popular memes.Have questions about how this works? Wonder why Guy Fieri is not on any of these lists? Ask away! We’re going to answer your questions live on our Instagram on Wednesday, December 6 and again Wednesday, December 13. Now here’s what you’ve been waiting for. Tumblr’s favorite things in 2017:ShipsRemember: If your OTP didn’t make this list, it’s okay. It just means you are directly responsible and should’ve made more posts about them.Animated TVThe only list where a self-loathing horse and an extremely rich duck can be found in competition with each other.Live-Action TVIn the golden age of television, every single one of these is a winner. Some are just winnier than others.MoviesMoonlight beat La La Land in this list, too, but neither were No. 1.ActressesYou like them! You really like them!ActorsOnce again we find ourselves with a disproportionate amount of men named Chris. No one is complaining. Especially the men named Chris.Models20 women who have perfected everything from their smizes to their struts.Television PersonalitiesThe alternative name was “people who get paid a lot for being themselves on TV,” but that wasn’t very catchy.AthletesFor a community based on competition, the sports community on Tumblr is incredibly supportive and kind.Wrestling SuperstarsHit up this link or we’ll break out our meanest piledriver.Web SeriesWe put all of your favorite stuff from the internet onto one list on the internet.Web CelebritiesThe definitive list of your favorite YouTubers, Twitchers, and podcasters.  Solo ArtistsWe’re warning you now: Taylor Swift was knocked down a peg. There’s a new No. 1 in these here parts.BandsFive of these bands have numbers in their names, ranging from one to 1975.K-PopGet your light sticks ready!K-Pop Band MembersDid your ultimate bias make No. 1?MusicalsWhile we’re talking, let us offer you some free advice: Block less. Reblog more. Let your followers know what musical you’re against or what you’re for.Video Games⬆️⬆️⬇️⬇️⬅️➡️⬅️➡️🅱️🅰️BooksYou asked, we delivered. Feast your eyes on these words, you incredible bookworms.AuthorsFun (?) fact: This is the only list in the batch that features a man who died over 400 years ago.Anime  MangaYou’re gonna triple axel when you see what’s No. 1.Tumblr CommunitiesThey aren’t any more or less important than the communities that didn’t make the cut. They’re just the ones that tagged their posts the most.Food  DrinkThis list is zero carbs, and yet it’s full of carbs.AnimalsOld MacDonald had a blog, T-U-M-B-L-R.Dog BreedsSome puppers, a few pupperinos, a couple of fluffers, and, of course, a h*ckin’ boofer. boop this list, frenMemesTired: Tagging your friend in a meme.Wired: Tagging your friend in the replies to the Memes post.

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