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For Me: one-time-i-dreamt:that is fun for me too 
For Me: one-time-i-dreamt:that is fun for me too 

one-time-i-dreamt:that is fun for me too 

For Me: If I walk into a store with a bandana on my face it’s not ending well for me
For Me: If I walk into a store with a bandana on my face it’s not ending well for me

If I walk into a store with a bandana on my face it’s not ending well for me

For Me: Works For Me!
For Me: Works For Me!

Works For Me!

For Me: Took too long for me to hear about it
For Me: Took too long for me to hear about it

Took too long for me to hear about it

For Me: pieprincess-andthe-fallenangel: westotanu: jeanjauthor: ao3commentoftheday: You’ve heard of lemons and the Citrus Scale? Well, what about KINKTOMATO? KINKTOMATO is an important concept in fandom. It’s a humourous re-spelling of YKINMKATO - Your Kink Is Not My Kink (And That’s OK). This is the idea that if you don’t like a particular kink or ship etc, that’s fine but you don’t need to attack or shame the people who do. Just leave them alone to enjoy their fics and art in peace and ask that they do the same in return.  KINKTOMATO is the “you do you” of fandom. It’s the “whatever floats your boat” of leaving other people alone. It’s an easy and judgement-free way of hoping that your fellow fans enjoy their content as much as you enjoy yours and understanding that different folks like different strokes.  Having preferences is human. Having squicks is totally normal. Everyone has NOTPs or lines they don’t want to cross. But fandom is a large group of diverse people with varying tastes and interests and backgrounds. Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combinations. Ship and let ship. Don’t like? Don’t read. Your kink is not my kink, and that’s okay.  This, writers. And yes, do bring back “squick” because if it makes you go “ew, ick” then that’s a squick, or a hard “uh no NOT for me” it’s a squick.  (Something that’s genuinely triggering will give you symptoms like hyperventillating, shaking hands, cold sweats, nausea, the feeling like you’re gonna faint, etc, but if it just makes you go “ew, ick” and scrunches your face in distaste, then that’s a squick, my friend.) just to add on - KINKTOMATO is not easy, which goes against the usual ‘it’s not hard to just hit the back button’ narrative but I’m gonna say it. most people think they can do this stuff just fine but usually what they’re considering as ‘things they don’t like’ are things they feel neutral about. ‘I’m not really fond of X but it doesn’t make me want to run for the hills if I see it in a fic’ is not ‘oh wow I really REALLY hate that’. it takes conscious effort to be fair about it. you have to resist the urge to be like ‘this is disgusting and I want to yell at someone for subjecting my poor eyeballs to this’. sometimes you gotta leave and do other things for a few days or even weeks just because you read the tags/summary on something and were like ‘oh god nope no ew ew ew’. nobody really enjoys practicing this type of self-discipline. it is sincerely unpleasant to encounter kinks you are repulsed/squicked by. there have been times when i was lax in reading through the tags or when i assumed a tag represented one kind of take on a thing but no actually it was another, way less appealing one, and it’s not a fun time to get that particular cold glass of water thrown onto your soul. be mature and fair about it anyway. resist the urge to be the fandom equivalent of those white suburban moms who yell at underpaid (or volunteer, in this case) cashiers and demand to speak to the manager. ignore the people who will try and appeal to you by telling you that your aversion is a result of some innate Goodness on your part and that people who make things you don’t like are Evil. And friendly reminder that both tumblr and AO3 have ways to filter out unwanted tags so that you can easily go about your day without seeing content for one of your squicks or notps. In fact, I find it good practice to do an AO3 search for all of my favourite ships, filtering out all tags and ships I don’t like, and then saving that page as a bookmark/favourite to make my future fic-browsing easier. That way, I never accidentally come across something that makes me squick. And whenever I come across another ship or tag that I hate, I add that into my ‘excluded tags’ list and resave it. It’s really simple and saves me a lot of pain and effort!
For Me: pieprincess-andthe-fallenangel:

westotanu:

jeanjauthor:

ao3commentoftheday:

You’ve heard of lemons and the Citrus Scale? Well, what about KINKTOMATO?
KINKTOMATO is an important concept in fandom. It’s a humourous re-spelling of YKINMKATO - Your Kink Is Not My Kink (And That’s OK). This is the idea that if you don’t like a particular kink or ship etc, that’s fine but you don’t need to attack or shame the people who do. Just leave them alone to enjoy their fics and art in peace and ask that they do the same in return. 
KINKTOMATO is the “you do you” of fandom. It’s the “whatever floats your boat” of leaving other people alone. It’s an easy and judgement-free way of hoping that your fellow fans enjoy their content as much as you enjoy yours and understanding that different folks like different strokes. 
Having preferences is human. Having squicks is totally normal. Everyone has NOTPs or lines they don’t want to cross. But fandom is a large group of diverse people with varying tastes and interests and backgrounds. Infinite Diversity in Infinite Combinations. Ship and let ship. Don’t like? Don’t read. Your kink is not my kink, and that’s okay. 

This, writers.
And yes, do bring back “squick” because if it makes you go “ew, ick” then that’s a squick, or a hard “uh no NOT for me” it’s a squick.  (Something that’s genuinely triggering will give you symptoms like hyperventillating, shaking hands, cold sweats, nausea, the feeling like you’re gonna faint, etc, but if it just makes you go “ew, ick” and scrunches your face in distaste, then that’s a squick, my friend.)

just to add on - KINKTOMATO is not easy, which goes against the usual ‘it’s not hard to just hit the back button’ narrative but I’m gonna say it. most people think they can do this stuff just fine but usually what 
they’re considering as ‘things they don’t like’ are things they feel neutral about. ‘I’m not really 
fond of X but it doesn’t make me want to run for the hills if I 
see it in a fic’ is not ‘oh wow I really REALLY hate that’. it takes conscious effort to be fair about it. you have to resist the urge to be like ‘this is disgusting and I want to yell at someone for subjecting my poor eyeballs to this’. sometimes you gotta leave and do other things for a few days or even weeks just because you read the tags/summary on something and were like ‘oh god nope no ew ew ew’. 
nobody really enjoys practicing this type of self-discipline. it is sincerely unpleasant to encounter kinks you are repulsed/squicked by. there have been times when i was lax in reading through the tags or when i assumed a tag represented one kind of take on a thing but no actually it was another, way less appealing one, and it’s not a fun time to get that particular cold glass of water thrown onto your soul. 
be mature and fair about it anyway. resist the urge to be the fandom equivalent of those white suburban moms who yell at underpaid (or volunteer, in this case) cashiers and demand to speak to the manager. ignore the people who will try and appeal to you by telling you that your aversion is a result of some innate Goodness on your part and that people who make things you don’t like are Evil.



And friendly reminder that both tumblr and AO3 have ways to filter out unwanted tags so that you can easily go about your day without seeing content for one of your squicks or notps. In fact, I find it good practice to do an AO3 search for all of my favourite ships, filtering out all tags and ships I don’t like, and then saving that page as a bookmark/favourite to make my future fic-browsing easier. That way, I never accidentally come across something that makes me squick. And whenever I come across another ship or tag that I hate, I add that into my ‘excluded tags’ list and resave it.
It’s really simple and saves me a lot of pain and effort!

pieprincess-andthe-fallenangel: westotanu: jeanjauthor: ao3commentoftheday: You’ve heard of lemons and the Citrus Scale? Well, what a...

For Me: She’s done so much for me
For Me: She’s done so much for me

She’s done so much for me

For Me: The little guy saying “nice” makes it for me
For Me: The little guy saying “nice” makes it for me

The little guy saying “nice” makes it for me

For Me: She’s done so much for me
For Me: She’s done so much for me

She’s done so much for me

For Me: One of the best gift ever for me!
For Me: One of the best gift ever for me!

One of the best gift ever for me!

For Me: I like how this website has shown me so many pictures that would mean absolutely nothing to the casual observer and yet unlock a primal fear for me, a veteran of this hell world.
For Me: I like how this website has shown me so many pictures that would mean absolutely nothing to the casual observer and yet unlock a primal fear for me, a veteran of this hell world.

I like how this website has shown me so many pictures that would mean absolutely nothing to the casual observer and yet unlock a primal f...

For Me: Now this look like a job for me
For Me: Now this look like a job for me

Now this look like a job for me

For Me: She is always there for me
For Me: She is always there for me

She is always there for me

For Me: awesomage: I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!
For Me: awesomage:
I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!

awesomage: I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Ink...

For Me: They’ve come for me
For Me: They’ve come for me

They’ve come for me

For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!
For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!

awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inke...

For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!
For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!

awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inke...

For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!
For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!

awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inke...

For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!
For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!

awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inke...

For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!
For Me: awesomage:I AM 40 A mom Adventurous Courageous Loyal Consistent Sexy Assertive Candid - I entered a contest to be the cover girl for Inked Magazine. You can vote for me here!

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For Me: Pray for me comrades
For Me: Pray for me comrades

Pray for me comrades

For Me: This is actually becoming a major problem for me
For Me: This is actually becoming a major problem for me

This is actually becoming a major problem for me

For Me: atlinmerrick: dancinggrimm: truckyousasha: thekaraokeninja: fandomsandfeminism: generalmaluga: albinwonderland: fandomsandfeminism: betterthanabortion: “My body, my choice” only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake. Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to. See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon.  Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy.  To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died.  You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies.  reblogging for commentary  But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too.  First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation.  And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument. Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all. If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other.  When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting. When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.”  And that is gross.  ^ THIS. This is this this THIS THIS THIS. THIS!!!!! This is probably the strongest and well worded/supported argument for abortion that I have ever read. WHY THE FUCK HAS TUMBLR FLAGGED THIS?! i’M FUCKING FURIOUS!!! Yep, this was flagged for me too. Which is why I’m going to reblog it several time until Tumblr implodes.
For Me: atlinmerrick:
dancinggrimm:

truckyousasha:

thekaraokeninja:

fandomsandfeminism:

generalmaluga:

albinwonderland:

fandomsandfeminism:

betterthanabortion:

“My body, my choice” only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.

Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.
See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon. 
Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy. 
To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died. 
You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies. 

reblogging for commentary 

But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too. 

First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation. 
And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument.
Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all.
If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other. 
When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting.
When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.” 
And that is gross. 

^ THIS. This is this this THIS THIS THIS. THIS!!!!!

This is probably the strongest and well worded/supported argument for abortion that I have ever read.

WHY THE FUCK HAS TUMBLR FLAGGED THIS?! i’M FUCKING FURIOUS!!!

Yep, this was flagged for me too. Which is why I’m going to reblog it several time until Tumblr implodes.

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For Me: This is how it’s been for me on tinder
For Me: This is how it’s been for me on tinder

This is how it’s been for me on tinder

For Me: awesomacious: Apple pie for me
For Me: awesomacious:

Apple pie for me

awesomacious: Apple pie for me

For Me: She’s 6’2 and too tall for me. But she’s being a bro hooking me up 👌🏽
For Me: She’s 6’2 and too tall for me. But she’s being a bro hooking me up 👌🏽

She’s 6’2 and too tall for me. But she’s being a bro hooking me up 👌🏽

For Me: epicdndmemes: First time it was hard for me
For Me: epicdndmemes:

First time it was hard for me

epicdndmemes: First time it was hard for me

For Me: She set it right up for me :)
For Me: She set it right up for me :)

She set it right up for me :)

For Me: Call an ambulance… But, not for me.
For Me: Call an ambulance… But, not for me.

Call an ambulance… But, not for me.

For Me: Call an ambulance… But, not for me. by Rusty-Crowe MORE MEMES
For Me: Call an ambulance… But, not for me. by Rusty-Crowe
MORE MEMES

Call an ambulance… But, not for me. by Rusty-Crowe MORE MEMES

For Me: But not for me
For Me: But not for me

But not for me

For Me: Based on real life events, pray for me
For Me: Based on real life events, pray for me

Based on real life events, pray for me

For Me: Apple pie for me
For Me: Apple pie for me

Apple pie for me

For Me: Apple pie for me
For Me: Apple pie for me

Apple pie for me

For Me: too much effort for me tbh
For Me: too much effort for me tbh

too much effort for me tbh

For Me: awesomacious: I gave this picture to my teacher and he cried when i gave it to him and said “this is the nicest thing someone has done for me” and teared up
For Me: awesomacious:

I gave this picture to my teacher and he cried when i gave it to him and said “this is the nicest thing someone has done for me” and teared up

awesomacious: I gave this picture to my teacher and he cried when i gave it to him and said “this is the nicest thing someone has done f...

For Me: This hits too close to home for me
For Me: This hits too close to home for me

This hits too close to home for me

For Me: Works for me
For Me: Works for me

Works for me

For Me: Works for me
For Me: Works for me

Works for me