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    shamed: what-even-is-thiss:

bobcatdump:

jaskiegg:

mellomaia:

aphony-cree:

beyoncescock:

gahdamnpunk:

Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making


THANK YOU

I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.”
The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner
If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents 
People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings

Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents.
When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture. 
I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.



God I’ve been reading these posts for a while and each time I am struck with the realization that certainly not all parents were supposed to be a parent

“I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.”YES this



The problem is, even if families are forgiving the culture around children still effects the child. I use myself as proof of that. 
A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.”
I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future.
Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that.
My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad.
To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time.
It’s like… we need to change the culture around this, man. Completely. 

    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                shamed: what-even-is-thiss:

bobcatdump:

jaskiegg:

mellomaia:

aphony-cree:

beyoncescock:

gahdamnpunk:

Honestly!!! This is just psychological trauma in the making


THANK YOU

I’ve asked parents about this and they always say they are teaching the child responsibility and “respect for other people’s things.” If I point out that the child accidentally broke their own toy they always say “I bought them that toy” or “my sister gave that to them.”
The problem is that parents view all possessions as not really belonging to the child. A part of them always seems to think that the adult who provided the money is the real owner
If a parent breaks a dish they see it as breaking something that already belonged to them, but if a child breaks it they see it as the child breaking something that belonged to the parents 
People raising children need to realize that household possessions belong to the entire household. If everyone has to use that plate then it belongs to everyone and anyone can have a forgivable accident with it. It’s okay to deem certain possessions as just yours and ask everyone in the house to respect that, but extend the same respect to your child’s belongings

Big mood. I know most of these are talking about little little kids, but here’s a tale from middle school. I had forgotten to charge my phone one night, and this was back when cell phones used to beep loudly when they were low on battery. I kept hearing the noise throughout the afternoon and not recognizing what it was because I’d never heard it before. When I finally did realize what it was, I was in science class and my fellow classmates were making presentations. I reached into my bag to try to turn off the phone, and then the low-battery sound went off, loud enough for the teacher to hear it. She confiscated my phone in front of everyone, and I didn’t get it back until after the weekend because it was a Friday. I was really embarrassed, especially to tell my parents.
When I got my phone back that Monday, my teacher said it was important for me to learn this lesson now since in college they wouldn’t tolerate phones going off. Fast forward to when I was in college, any time someone’s phone went off, either the professor would tell them to turn it off, or they would say, “Oh, my bad,” and turn it off themselves, and everyone would move on. I even had a professor who danced around while someone’s phone went off, and it was a welcome moment of levity during the lecture. 
I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.



God I’ve been reading these posts for a while and each time I am struck with the realization that certainly not all parents were supposed to be a parent

“I say all this to say, one of the worst aspects of being a child/teen was adults assuming my intentions were malicious.”YES this



The problem is, even if families are forgiving the culture around children still effects the child. I use myself as proof of that. 
A few times between the ages of 4 and 18 I broke things. I broke my grandma’s favorite Christmas ornament. Her first question was: “Are you hurt?” and when I apologized profusely she said “I’m just glad you weren’t hurt.”
I broke a few plates. I broke a couple glasses. Every time my dad’s first response was “Did you get cut?” the second step was cleaning up the broken bits, and the third was a discussion of what led to me breaking it and how I could avoid doing that in the future.
Same with spills. Same with stains. My biggest “punishment” from my immediate family was being taught how to clean up the mess I made and being shown in detail how to avoid the same mistake in the future if it was avoidable. There were consequences for my actions, but they were the direct result of those actions and nothing much beyond that.
My family tried so hard to teach me how to deal with accidents in a healthy way. They were patient. They treated every slip-up as a learning opportunity. They showed me a lot of love. The other adults still got to me. Teachers still punished and publicly shamed me and other students for our mess-ups. Extended family members outside of my small supportive circle still yelled at me. My friends’ parents still got mad.
To the point where whenever I messed up my first instinct was that my dad or grandparents were going to punish me, or yell at me, or hit me, even though they never did. They just didn’t. They always responded with patience and an attitude of “I’m glad you’re safe and I want to help you learn from this.” And I was still afraid of messing up. Mortified. Expecting the worst every time.
It’s like… we need to change the culture around this, man. Completely. 

                
            

            
            
what-even-is-thiss:

bobcatdump:

jaskiegg:

mellomaia:

aphony-cree:

beyoncescock:

gahdamnpunk:

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    shamed: JACKSONCOUNTYSHERIFFIN.ORG
ivan-fyodorovich:

mikestillneedsadrink:

oparnoshoshoi:

thegreenpea:

princessmuffinmouth:


byecolonizer:


Why was he only fired. He should be criminally charged. With that many people is not enough to just fire him.




So, I did a little more research on this because dude really pulled this on body cam. Turns out it was the assistant state attorney Christina Pumphrey who discovered this. There are also two other cops from the same sheriff’s department involved in planting drugs. Pumphrey actually resigned from her position because not only was this being allowed to happen, but the state attorney office would not immediately drop the charges against the 119 victims. She said she was, “getting an explicit instruction to not dismiss the cases.” She was also shamed by her superior for bringing the video evidence to the sheriff’s department in an effort to get the officer off the street immediately.


Back to  fuck the cops 


I keep questioning whether it’s worth it to pull over any more.

Just so everyone knows, the officer wasn’t just fired, he has been arrested and is being charged with at least 52 counts of racketeering, false imprisonment, official misconduct, fabricating evidence and possession of controlled substances, and some other stuff. The 119 cases mentioned above have since been dropped and 263 remain under review.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2019/07/11/florida-cop-meth-drugs-arrests-scandal/

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ivan-fyodorovich:

mikestillneedsadrink:

oparnoshoshoi:

thegreenpea:

princessmuffinmouth:


byecolonizer:


Why was he only fired. He should be criminally charged. With that many people is not enough to just fire him.




So, I did a little more research on this because dude really pulled this on body cam. Turns out it was the assistant state attorney Christina Pumphrey who discovered this. There are also two other cops from the same sheriff’s department involved in planting drugs. Pumphrey actually resigned from her position because not only was this being allowed to happen, but the state attorney office would not immediately drop the charges against the 119 victims. She said she was, “getting an explicit instruction to not dismiss the cases.” She was also shamed by her superior for bringing the video evidence to the sheriff’s department in an effort to get the officer off the street immediately.


Back to  fuck the cops 


I keep questioning whether it’s worth it to pull over any more.

Just so everyone knows, the officer wasn’t just fired, he has been arrested and is being charged with at least 52 counts of racketeering, false imprisonment, official misconduct, fabricating evidence and possession of controlled substances, and some other stuff. The 119 cases mentioned above have since been dropped and 263 remain under review.
https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2019/07/11/florida-cop-meth-drugs-arrests-scandal/

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mikestillneedsadrink:

oparnoshoshoi:

thegreenpea:

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    shamed: Julia
 @ghoulia
 Follow
 a guy on my facebook posted something slightly
 stupid & his mom went OFFFFFFFFF

 What it takes to be an attractive...
 Man
 Woman
 -be ripped
 -have stable job
 -be ripped
 -have money
 -be clean
 dress well
 -smell good
 -be dad material
 -pay for dates
 -be confident
 -have nice hair
 -Dont be too fat
 Meninist
 on Tuesday
 welp

 I am so ANGRY AT YOU RIGHT NOW
 TAKE THIS DOWN. This
 is going to be a conversation. You
 think this is true? You are selfish
 enough and diluted enough to believe
 this garbage?
 3 hours ago . Unlike-山1 . Reply
 By these standards SON I guess I'm
 unattractive and don't to a fucking
 thing for you! Oh you and I have a
 goddamn lunch date.
 3 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 I wouldn't worry about any other girls
 response here. Mine should enlighten
 you. And I've screen shot this for our
 further viewing pleasure and future
 learning tool.
 3 hours ago . Unlike . 1 . Reply

 I'm so glad I screen shot this very
 every girl you ever try to bring home.
 For your wedding day...this...this will
 be brought up FOREVER.
 3 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 Yup.
 what mood
 3 hours ago Like Reply
 look
 has set
 I'm sure your future pregnant wife will
 feel.your love when YPU MAKE HER
 UNATTRACTIVE through pregnancy.
 You twit. Open mouth allow shit to fal
 out. Anyone who liked this better
 unlik it like real fast. How do you like
 being single forever because your a
 DOUCHE CANOE?
 3 hours ago Unlike 2 Reply

 Oh don't like me spamming your wall?
 Don't post horse shit calling me
 unattractive! Like f I'm not going to
 defend myself!
 3 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 Simlle More
 Your proctologist called he found
 your head
 2 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 Smile More
 Write a comment...
 OS
dr-gloom:

neshtasplace:

author-trash:

inquisitorhotpants:

thugilly:

micdotcom:

And mom of the year goes to …

This is actually amazing because anytime I see a man being sexist or misogynistic, I wonder where his mother is.

“your proctologist called, he found your head” lmaooooooo


She went off on him I’m dead 

She gave him life, then saw fit to take it away. 

this is how moms should respond to their sons being pricks, not awkward socially-obligated laughter or silent smiles

Fatality 
    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                shamed: Julia
 @ghoulia
 Follow
 a guy on my facebook posted something slightly
 stupid & his mom went OFFFFFFFFF

 What it takes to be an attractive...
 Man
 Woman
 -be ripped
 -have stable job
 -be ripped
 -have money
 -be clean
 dress well
 -smell good
 -be dad material
 -pay for dates
 -be confident
 -have nice hair
 -Dont be too fat
 Meninist
 on Tuesday
 welp

 I am so ANGRY AT YOU RIGHT NOW
 TAKE THIS DOWN. This
 is going to be a conversation. You
 think this is true? You are selfish
 enough and diluted enough to believe
 this garbage?
 3 hours ago . Unlike-山1 . Reply
 By these standards SON I guess I'm
 unattractive and don't to a fucking
 thing for you! Oh you and I have a
 goddamn lunch date.
 3 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 I wouldn't worry about any other girls
 response here. Mine should enlighten
 you. And I've screen shot this for our
 further viewing pleasure and future
 learning tool.
 3 hours ago . Unlike . 1 . Reply

 I'm so glad I screen shot this very
 every girl you ever try to bring home.
 For your wedding day...this...this will
 be brought up FOREVER.
 3 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 Yup.
 what mood
 3 hours ago Like Reply
 look
 has set
 I'm sure your future pregnant wife will
 feel.your love when YPU MAKE HER
 UNATTRACTIVE through pregnancy.
 You twit. Open mouth allow shit to fal
 out. Anyone who liked this better
 unlik it like real fast. How do you like
 being single forever because your a
 DOUCHE CANOE?
 3 hours ago Unlike 2 Reply

 Oh don't like me spamming your wall?
 Don't post horse shit calling me
 unattractive! Like f I'm not going to
 defend myself!
 3 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 Simlle More
 Your proctologist called he found
 your head
 2 hours ago Unlike 1 Reply
 Smile More
 Write a comment...
 OS
dr-gloom:

neshtasplace:

author-trash:

inquisitorhotpants:

thugilly:

micdotcom:

And mom of the year goes to …

This is actually amazing because anytime I see a man being sexist or misogynistic, I wonder where his mother is.

“your proctologist called, he found your head” lmaooooooo


She went off on him I’m dead 

She gave him life, then saw fit to take it away. 

this is how moms should respond to their sons being pricks, not awkward socially-obligated laughter or silent smiles

Fatality 
                
            

            
            
dr-gloom:

neshtasplace:

author-trash:

inquisitorhotpants:

thugilly:

micdotcom:

And mom of the year goes to …

This is actually amaz...

            
            
        

    



        

            
                
                    
                    


    

        
        
    




                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    


    

        
        
    




                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    


    

        
        
    




                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    


    

        
        
    




                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            






        

            
                
                    
                    
                
            
        
        

            







    shamed: reddit
 Hello,
 A few months ago l captured an American
 Cockroach in my studio apartment. In my
 apartment, I see a roach from time to time. Nota
 ton of bunches of roaches, like say, 2 or 3 a
 month. Most often I smashed them or sprayeda
 poison on them. But one time l thought, maybe
 this is a bad thing? Why should a roach be killed
 ust because it is a bug? Well I decided to
 capture that roach and I made him my pet. I
 name him Big Alan
 I keep Big Alan in a little aquarium, but I also
 take him out a lot to hold him, pet him, speak to
 him, etc.
 Well, let me tell you in my life I have had only3
 dates, and before this new date my last prior
 date was in October 2009. So may I say that, of
 course, I admit I was very nervous to go on this
 new date
 I find that Big Alan keeps me very calm when I
 have him with me. He is like a good luck charm
 of sorts, and as my pet he is my good friend, so l
 know that if he is with me I am not alone. It may
 seem silly but it is like he is a courage bug

 So on my date I kept Big Alan in my front shirt
 pocket, and I put bacon bits in there so he would
 have a good meal and he would be distracted b
 that and not crawl awav. Well it did not work
 exactly this way. You see, a roach like Big Alan
 has very long antennae. If you have ever seen a
 cockroach you know that's a fact. Well at some
 point I guess this damned rascal was tired of his
 bacon bits and his antennae were poking up out
 of my pocket.
 Well I have to tell you that she did see this. I did
 not want to cause a fright so l explained it is just
 my pet, and I took Big Alan out of my pocket to
 show her. Well let me tell you she did react very
 oorly to this, and even screamed. And everyone
 turned and saw I had a roach in my hands and
 just about everyone reacted very badly. I had to
 explain to everyone he is just my pet.
 Well I was finding this extremely embarrassing
 and also l feared for the safety of Big Alan to be
 honest. So I ran out of that place. Yes, ran.

 Well now I am quite shamed and angered by all
 of this. I have resolved I will not do any more
 dates. That's for sure. But I wish Big Alan had
 not poked his antennae out. He didn't know the
 deal but even so T am slightly annoyed at him. I
 know this is unfair. But it's how I feel.
tripropellant:

mysteryho:

yeezusplease:

big alan did nothing wrong

i like how this is written like an american 1950s radio personality telling an ambling story


this is such a powerful example of how tone and phrasing can be jokes on their own. if this guy wrote this like a normal person it’d be mildly funny but mostly a little sad but because he wrote it how he did it’s indescribably funny

    

        
        
        
        
        
        
        
        
    

    

        

            
            

                
                shamed: reddit
 Hello,
 A few months ago l captured an American
 Cockroach in my studio apartment. In my
 apartment, I see a roach from time to time. Nota
 ton of bunches of roaches, like say, 2 or 3 a
 month. Most often I smashed them or sprayeda
 poison on them. But one time l thought, maybe
 this is a bad thing? Why should a roach be killed
 ust because it is a bug? Well I decided to
 capture that roach and I made him my pet. I
 name him Big Alan
 I keep Big Alan in a little aquarium, but I also
 take him out a lot to hold him, pet him, speak to
 him, etc.
 Well, let me tell you in my life I have had only3
 dates, and before this new date my last prior
 date was in October 2009. So may I say that, of
 course, I admit I was very nervous to go on this
 new date
 I find that Big Alan keeps me very calm when I
 have him with me. He is like a good luck charm
 of sorts, and as my pet he is my good friend, so l
 know that if he is with me I am not alone. It may
 seem silly but it is like he is a courage bug

 So on my date I kept Big Alan in my front shirt
 pocket, and I put bacon bits in there so he would
 have a good meal and he would be distracted b
 that and not crawl awav. Well it did not work
 exactly this way. You see, a roach like Big Alan
 has very long antennae. If you have ever seen a
 cockroach you know that's a fact. Well at some
 point I guess this damned rascal was tired of his
 bacon bits and his antennae were poking up out
 of my pocket.
 Well I have to tell you that she did see this. I did
 not want to cause a fright so l explained it is just
 my pet, and I took Big Alan out of my pocket to
 show her. Well let me tell you she did react very
 oorly to this, and even screamed. And everyone
 turned and saw I had a roach in my hands and
 just about everyone reacted very badly. I had to
 explain to everyone he is just my pet.
 Well I was finding this extremely embarrassing
 and also l feared for the safety of Big Alan to be
 honest. So I ran out of that place. Yes, ran.

 Well now I am quite shamed and angered by all
 of this. I have resolved I will not do any more
 dates. That's for sure. But I wish Big Alan had
 not poked his antennae out. He didn't know the
 deal but even so T am slightly annoyed at him. I
 know this is unfair. But it's how I feel.
tripropellant:

mysteryho:

yeezusplease:

big alan did nothing wrong

i like how this is written like an american 1950s radio personality telling an ambling story


this is such a powerful example of how tone and phrasing can be jokes on their own. if this guy wrote this like a normal person it’d be mildly funny but mostly a little sad but because he wrote it how he did it’s indescribably funny

                
            

            
            
tripropellant:

mysteryho:

yeezusplease:

big alan did nothing wrong

i like how this is written like an american 1950s radio personalit...