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Baby, It's Cold Outside, Christmas, and Definitely: I don't think any more people need to record Baby It's Cold Outside. I think we're good there teachingwithcoffee It's time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Caral bigbutterandeggman Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s So. Here's the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today's worldview to the song. yes, you're right, it absolutely 'sounds' like a rape anthem. BUTI Let's look closerl "Hey what's in this drink" was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there's actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol. See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned at a dude's house. In the 1940's, that's the kind of thing Good Girls aren't supposed to do - and she wants people to think she's a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she's really concerned about: the neighbors might think," "my maiden aunt's mind is vicious," "there's bound to be talk tomorrow." But she's having a really good time and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink - unaware that the drink is actually really weak maybe not even alcoholic at all. That's the joke. That is the standard joke that's going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says "hey, what's in this drink?" It is not a joke about how she's drunk and about to be raped. It's a joke about how she's perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she's living in a society where women aren't supposed to have sexual agency Basically, the song only makes sense in the ext of a society in which women are expected to reject men's advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it's normal and expected for a lady's gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won't be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than "I'm staying because I want to." (That's the main theme of the man's lines in the song suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he's pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and she's using it to give all the culturally- understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can't say so. She states explicitly that she's resisting because she's supposed to, not because she wants to: "l ought to say no no no..." She states explicitly that she's just putting up a token resistance so she'll be able to claim later that she did what's expected of a decent woman in this situation: "at least I'm oonna sav that I tried. And at the end of the that she's resisting because she's supposed to not because she wants to: "l ought to say no no no..." She states explicitly that she's just putting up a token resistance so she' ll be able to claim later that she did what's expected of a decent woman in this situation: "at least I'm gonna say thatI tried." And at the end of the song they're singing together, in harmony because they're both on the same page and they have been all along. So it's not actually a song about rape in fact it's a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it's also, at the same time, one of the best llustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. It's a song about a society where women aren't allowed to say yes...which happens to mean it's also a society where women don't have a clear and unambiguous way to say no. Source:matchinovnecks #baby it's cold outside #not about rape #30 tired of having to explain this one 196,155 notes "C But Baby It’s Cold
Baby, It's Cold Outside, Christmas, and Definitely: I don't think any more people
 need to record Baby It's Cold
 Outside. I think we're good there
 teachingwithcoffee
 It's time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem
 Masquerading As Christmas Caral
 bigbutterandeggman
 Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also
 a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s
 So. Here's the thing. Given a cursory glance
 and applying today's worldview to the song.
 yes, you're right, it absolutely 'sounds' like a
 rape anthem.
 BUTI Let's look closerl
 "Hey what's in this drink" was a stock joke at
 the time, and the punchline was invariably that
 there's actually pretty much nothing in the drink,
 not even a significant amount of alcohol.
 See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned
 at a dude's house. In the 1940's, that's the kind
 of thing Good Girls aren't supposed to do -
 and she wants people to think she's a good girl.
 The woman in the song says outright, multiple
 times, that what other people will think of her
 staying is what she's really concerned about:
 the neighbors might think," "my maiden aunt's
 mind is vicious," "there's bound to be talk
 tomorrow." But she's having a really good time
 and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing
 her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to
 the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink
 - unaware that the drink is actually really weak
 maybe not even alcoholic at all. That's the joke.
 That is the standard joke that's going on when a
 woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th
 century says "hey, what's in this drink?" It is not
 a joke about how she's drunk and about to be
 raped. It's a joke about how she's perfectly
 sober and about to have awesome consensual
 sex and use the drink for plausible deniability
 because she's living in a society where women
 aren't supposed to have sexual agency
 Basically, the song only makes sense in the
 ext of a society in which women are
 expected to reject men's advances whether
 they actually want to or not, and therefore it's
 normal and expected for a lady's gentleman
 companion to pressure her despite her protests
 because he knows she would have to say that
 whether or not she meant it, and if she really
 wants to stay she won't be able to justify doing
 so unless he offers her an excuse other than
 "I'm staying because I want to." (That's the
 main theme of the man's lines in the song
 suggesting excuses she can use when people
 ask later why she spent the night at his house: it
 was so cold out, there were no cabs available,
 he simply insisted because he was concerned
 about my safety in such awful weather, it was
 perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex
 at all!) In this particular case, he's pretty clearly
 right, because the woman has a voice, and
 she's using it to give all the culturally-
 understood signals that she actually does want
 to stay but can't say so. She states explicitly
 that she's resisting because she's supposed to,
 not because she wants to: "l ought to say no no
 no..." She states explicitly that she's just
 putting up a token resistance so she'll be able
 to claim later that she did what's expected of a
 decent woman in this situation: "at least I'm
 oonna sav that I tried. And at the end of the
 that she's resisting because she's supposed to
 not because she wants to: "l ought to say no no
 no..." She states explicitly that she's just
 putting up a token resistance so she' ll be able
 to claim later that she did what's expected of a
 decent woman in this situation: "at least I'm
 gonna say thatI tried." And at the end of the
 song they're singing together, in harmony
 because they're both on the same page and
 they have been all along.
 So it's not actually a song about rape in fact
 it's a song about a woman finding a way to
 exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society
 designed to stop her from doing so. But it's
 also, at the same time, one of the best
 llustrations of rape culture that pop culture has
 ever produced. It's a song about a society
 where women aren't allowed to say yes...which
 happens to mean it's also a society where
 women don't have a clear and unambiguous
 way to say no.
 Source:matchinovnecks #baby it's cold outside
 #not about rape
 #30 tired of having to explain this one
 196,155 notes
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Ass, Beautiful, and College: shared
 s photo
 Must not have any women in your life you care about.
 and you have post plenty of crap, thatI moved on
 from. Can you show me the same respect? If so, you might be leaning
 towards conservatism. LOL. I'm only joking
 Like Reply 21 hrs
 December 21 at 9:55am-
 Like Reply-Yesterday at 1020am
 A Hide 12 Replies
 Really
 You do realize your antics are part of the
 IT WAS ME! I'M
 RESPONSIBLE FOR
 DONALD TRUMP GETTIN
 ELECTED, NOT THE
 RUSSIANS, NOT THE
 ELECTORAL COLLEGE
 So Hillary was a champion for women's rights?
 problem, and nothing to do with a solution! This is a prime example of a
 true bigotl So maybe you should start thinking about yours, before you
 make foolish comments about minel
 Like Reply-Yesterday at 1:34pm
 How quickly you forget that she took money for her campaign from
 people who STONE WOMEN TO DEATHilll They literally form a circle
 around them and pelt them with rocks until they die! And if a woman
 claims rape there has to be a witness... And don't forget her husband's
 sexcapades. She was literally accused, IN COURT, of threatening the
 VICTIMS to keep their mouths shut. Not to mention the fact that I'm sure
 EVERY American male has had worse conversations with friends than
 the lame tape released. Grab them by the pussy? Seriously??? Watclh
 any porn, which I know you do, and tell me thats less "degrading". If the
 unsubstantiated accusations and that sorry excuse for locker room talk
 is all you're basing your opinion on, then you really need to wake up
 and turn oft MSNBC
 Like Reply-1-21 hrs
 What? Please don't dismiss my comment as "antics.
 This is pure observation. Your dismissive response is antics. My
 comment is serious
 Like Reply Yesterday at 2:48pm
 It was unprovoked and having a daughter makes
 extremely uncalled for
 Like Reply-23 hr
 Unprovoked on a facebook post which is basically
 Iam all woman! I have been in
 voted for Trump"?? If my comment is "extremely uncalled for" because
 you have a daughter then what is your vote for Trump? l thought you
 might be able to defend your vote for someone so sexist. I'm still waiting
 Like Reply 22 hrs
 life for 20 years, and I care about him, his well being, and his beautiful
 baby girl. I voted for Trump!
 Like- Reply-19 hrs-Edited
 Good on ya Believing the other candidate
 Sexist. stop crying dudel Its overl Trump is your next
 president Deal with it
 Like Reply-1-21 hrs
 was pro woman's rights just because she has a vagina is like saying
 Obama did anything for the black community just because he's black...
 Like Reply 1 -19 hrs
 IT WAS ME! I VOTED FOR
 HIM
 Here's the deal. I will post what i want to post,
 MAA Hahaha
 when Iwant to post it. As you, can do as you please. If you dont like it
 and can't move on from it. Then please fill free to delete me! Its your
 right! This MEME, if you call it that was meant to be a joke. For all the
 crying ass liberals out there, trying to find that reason why they didnt
 winl You want to scream sexist? Fine, but take that shit else where. I
 dont want to hear about it! Thank You
 Like Reply-2-21 hrs
 Like Reply 19 hrs
 Look at all the people who need that safe space they
 always whine about LOLI Stll waiting for that rational justification by the
 way
 Like Reply-17 hrs Edited
 1 Like-Comment → Share
 Write a reply
 Oh, and you have post plenty of crap, that I moved on
 nd 11 others
 from. Can you show me the same respect? If so, you might be leaning
 towards conservatism. LOL. I'm only joking
 l ike Renlv 21 hrs
 Me too
 Must not have any women in your life you care about.
 Like Reply 1 Yesterday at 2:11pm
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 s a dude
 Funny
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Being Alone, Be Like, and College: This is Brock Turner, the Stanford rapist's statement that made the judge think this man d a light sentence, becau sentence would have a severe impact on hinm The night of January 17th changed my life and the lives of everyone involved forever. I can never go back to being the person I was am no longer a swimmer, a student, a resident of or the product of the work that I put in to accomplish the goals thaI set out in the first nineteen years of my life. Not only have I altered my life, but I've also changed [redacted] and her fore that day. I happened on the night that these people's lives were changed forever. I would give anything to change what happened that night. I can never forgive myself for imposing trauma and pain on redacted]. It debilitates me to think that my actions have caused her emotional and physical stress that is completely unwarranted and unfair The thought of this is in my head every second of every day since this event has occurred. These ideas never leave my mind. During the day, I shake uncontrollably from the amount I torment myself by thinking about what has happened.I wish I had the ability to go back in time and never pick up a drink that night, let alone interact with [redacted].I can barely hold a conversation with someone without having my mind drift into thinking these thoughts. They torture me. I go to sleep every night n crippled by t hese thoughts to the of exhaustion. I wake up having dreamt of these horrific events that I have caused. I am completely consumed by my poor judgement and ill thought action where I haven't regretted the course of events I took on January 17th/18th. My shell and core of who I am as a person is forever broken from this. I am a changed person. At this point in my life, I never want to have a drop of alcohol again. I never want to attend a social gathering that involves alcohol or any situation where people make decisions based on the substances they have consumed. I never want to experience being ina position where it will have a negative impact on my life or someone else's ever again. Ive lost two jobs solely based on the reporting of my case. I wish l never was good at swimmin opportunity to attend Stanford, so maybe the newspapers wouldn't want to write stories about me. s. There isn't a second that has gone by g or had the can ne person. I know that if I were to be placed on probation, I would be able to be a benefit to society for the rest of my life. I want to earn a college degree in any capacity that I am capable to do so. And in accomplishing this task, I can make the people around me and society better through the example I will set. I'v since my start as a swimmer. I want to take what I can from who I was before this situation happened and use it to the best of my abilities moving oriented me the dangers of assuming what college life can be like without thinking about the consequences one would potentially have to make if one were to make the same decisions that I made. I want to that people's lives can drinking and making poor decisions while doing so. One needs to recognize the influence that peer pressure and the attitude of having to fit in can have on someone. One decision has the potential to change your entire life. I know I can impact and change people's attitudes towards the culture surrounded by binge drinking and sexual promiscuity that protrudes through what people think is at the core of being a college student. want to demolish the assumption that drinking and partying are what make up a college lifestyle I made a mistake, I drank too much, and my decisions hurt someone. But I never ever meant to My poor decision making and excessive drinking hurt someone that night and I wish I could just take t al back If I were to say, without a single shred of doubt in my mind, that I would never have any problem with law enforcement. Before this happened, I never had any trouble wh law enforcement and I plan on maintaining that. I've been shattered by the party culture and risk taking behavior that I briefly experienced in my four months at school. I've lost my chance to swim in the Olympics. I've lost my ability to obtain a Stanford degree. I've lost employment opportunity, my reputation and most of all, my life. These things force me to never want to put myself in a position where I have to sacrifice everything. I would make it my life's mission to show everyone thatI can contribute and be a positive influence on society from these events that have transpired. I will never put through an event where it will give someone the ability to question whether I really can be a be placed on probation, I can positively tterment to society. I want no one, male or female, to have to experience the destructive consequences of making decisions while under the influence of alcohol. I want to be a voice of reason in a time where people's attitudes and preconceived notions about partying and drinking have already been established. I want to let young people now, as I did not. that things can go from fun to ruined in just one night TO SUM UP ."IWISH I DIDN'T GET CAUGHT.NOW I HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO DEFLECT THE BLAME" OH YEAH,I WISH INEVER WAS GOODAT SWIMMING OR ATTENDED STANFORD This is Stanford rapists statement that made the judge think he deserved a light sentence.
Being Alone, Be Like, and College: This is Brock Turner, the Stanford rapist's
 statement that made the judge think this man
 d a light sentence, becau
 sentence would have a severe impact on hinm
 The night of January 17th changed my life and the
 lives of everyone involved forever. I can never go
 back to being the person I was
 am no longer a swimmer, a student, a resident of
 or the product of the work that I put in to
 accomplish the goals thaI set out in the first
 nineteen years of my life. Not only have I altered
 my life, but I've also changed [redacted] and her
 fore that day. I
 happened on the night that these people's lives
 were changed forever. I would give anything to
 change what happened that night. I can never
 forgive myself for imposing trauma and pain on
 redacted]. It debilitates me to think that my
 actions have caused her emotional and physical
 stress that is completely unwarranted and unfair
 The thought of this is in my head every second of
 every day since this event has occurred. These
 ideas never leave my mind. During the day, I shake
 uncontrollably from the amount I torment myself
 by thinking about what has happened.I wish I had
 the ability to go back in time and never pick up a
 drink that night, let alone interact with [redacted].I
 can barely hold a conversation with someone
 without having my mind drift into thinking these
 thoughts. They torture me. I go to sleep every night
 n crippled by t
 hese thoughts to the
 of exhaustion. I wake up having dreamt of these
 horrific events that I have caused. I am completely
 consumed by my poor judgement and ill thought
 action
 where I haven't regretted the course of events I
 took on January 17th/18th. My shell and core of
 who I am as a person is forever broken from this. I
 am a changed person. At this point in my life, I
 never want to have a drop of alcohol again. I never
 want to attend a social gathering that involves
 alcohol or any situation where people make
 decisions based on the substances they have
 consumed. I never want to experience being ina
 position where it will have a negative impact on my
 life or someone else's ever again. Ive lost two jobs
 solely based on the reporting of my case. I wish l
 never was good at swimmin
 opportunity to attend Stanford, so maybe the
 newspapers wouldn't want to write stories about
 me.
 s. There isn't a second that has gone by
 g or had the
 can
 ne
 person. I know that if I were to be placed on
 probation, I would be able to be a benefit to society
 for the rest of my life. I want to earn a college
 degree in any capacity that I am capable to do so.
 And in accomplishing this task, I can make the
 people around me and society better through the
 example I will set. I'v
 since my start as a swimmer. I want to take what I
 can from who I was before this situation happened
 and use it to the best of my abilities moving
 oriented
 me the dangers of assuming what college life can
 be like without thinking about the consequences
 one would potentially have to make if one were to
 make the same decisions that I made. I want to
 that people's lives can
 drinking and making poor decisions while doing so.
 One needs to recognize the influence that peer
 pressure and the attitude of having to fit in can
 have on someone. One decision has the potential
 to change your entire life. I know I can impact and
 change people's attitudes towards the culture
 surrounded by binge drinking and sexual
 promiscuity that protrudes through what people
 think is at the core of being a college student.
 want to demolish the assumption that drinking and
 partying are what make up a college lifestyle I
 made a mistake, I drank too much, and my
 decisions hurt someone. But I never ever meant to
 My poor decision
 making and excessive drinking hurt someone that
 night and I wish I could just take t al back
 If I were to
 say, without a single shred of doubt in my mind,
 that I would never have any problem with law
 enforcement. Before this happened, I never had
 any trouble wh law enforcement and I plan on
 maintaining that. I've been shattered by the party
 culture and risk taking behavior that I briefly
 experienced in my four months at school. I've lost
 my chance to swim in the Olympics. I've lost my
 ability to obtain a Stanford degree. I've lost
 employment opportunity, my reputation and most
 of all, my life. These things force me to never want
 to put myself in a position where I have to sacrifice
 everything. I would make it my life's mission to
 show everyone thatI can contribute and be a
 positive influence on society from these events
 that have transpired. I will never put
 through an event where it will give someone the
 ability to question whether I really can be a
 be placed on probation, I can positively
 tterment to society. I want no one, male or
 female, to have to experience the destructive
 consequences of making decisions while under the
 influence of alcohol. I want to be a voice of reason
 in a time where people's attitudes and
 preconceived notions about partying and drinking
 have already been established. I want to let young
 people now, as I did not. that things can go from
 fun to ruined in just one night
 TO SUM UP
 ."IWISH I DIDN'T GET CAUGHT.NOW I HAVE
 TO FIND A WAY TO DEFLECT THE BLAME"
 OH YEAH,I WISH INEVER WAS GOODAT
 SWIMMING OR ATTENDED STANFORD
This is Stanford rapists statement that made the judge think he deserved a light sentence.

This is Stanford rapists statement that made the judge think he deserved a light sentence.